Techniques of Meditation: Creating a Safe Space
In order to make progress in our meditation practice, we must know that we are in a safe space thus learning how to meditate needs to incorporate the concept of safety. For some of us this is a unique idea because we are so accustomed to living in threatening conditions. This is particularly true of those who live in large cities.
Since a major part of the purpose of meditation is to relax, this is an area which must be addressed. It can become an endless loop for the meditator, "I can't meditate because I can't relax. I can't relax because I can't meditate." So learning to connect with a safe space is an important technique of meditation.
It doesn't have to be this way.
To handle the practical matters first, you may need to meditate in a locked room. This may be especially necessary for those of you with young children who don't understand boundaries. This will help to teach them respect for your time and space.
Next, choose a realistic time period for your practice. For those of you with busy, active families, the best time might be early in the morning or late in the evening. If you live alone or will be alone in your home when you meditate, choose a time of day when you feel safest, such as your lunch hour.
Meditate in a time and space that feels as safe as you can make it. Turn off the telephone, your beeper and anything else that could interrupt you. This is your time. Give yourself permission to experience it and respect yourself enough to allow it to be sacred. Be aware that if you permit others to impinge on these few moments, you are sacrificing your dignity and well-being for what is very likely a far less important issue.
In your self and guided meditations, try this affirmation, repeating it as a mantra, "I am completely safe". Practicing this for only 10 to 15 minutes a day will make a significant difference in your attitude and in your life. You will find yourself feeling and being less threatened on a permanent basis and this technique will help your meditation practice.