Universal Love: Eagerness to Accept Your Good

By Linda-Ann Stewart Ct.H., Ct.H.A

A strong empowerment component is the willingness to accept. Acceptance can be an emotionally loaded subject. Some people get upset because they think that they are accepting of their good, but it isn't showing up in their lives. They want increased prosperity, more health, better relationships, and say, "I accept it, but why isn't it here?" Other people believe that they'll be selfish if they open themselves up for Universal good. Somehow, they're afraid they're taking it from others. Many blockages to a better life stem from old feelings of guilt or not being deserving. We may not be aware of the feelings, but we get to experience the results by not accepting all that the Universe gives us.

When I was little, I accepted good graciously. Most small children do, until they get brainwashed that receiving is a no-no. I shared my good; my toys, by talent, my good fortune with others who appreciated and valued it. Then I drew people into my life who told me that I didn't deserve the good I had. I was told that others less fortunate should have my good, and I had to give them all of what I had. When I loaned my pristine condition comic books to friends, the comics were returned to me in shreds, if they came back at all. If I got upset at my possessions being destroyed, I was chastised that I was putting too much importance on material objects. But what's the use of having nice things if others destroy them?

I was told, "It's better to give than receive." Since I had to struggle to prove I deserved good, I even blocked the Universe from helping me. Talk about self-sabotage.

I'm not alone in this. Many of my clients relate similar stories. Shamed for having been talented, or intelligent, or ambitious, they've blocked their acceptance of good. Being told they had to give away all of what they had to those less fortunate, they decided, "What's the point in working so hard, then?" These were decisions made in childhood that became unconscious motivations in adulthood.

We don't take from others when we accept goodness from the universe. Everyone has an unlimited amount of God in them. Everyone has the same access to their power as we have to ours. We don't take love from others when we have love in our lives.

We can light someone else's candle without blowing out our own. Giving satisfies a deep urge within us to share with others. Not out of pity, shame or guilt but with love. Giving with love helps to keep Universal energy circulating. But if we shove good away because it feels dangerous or undeserved, then the flow shuts down, and we wonder why.

For there to be a giver, there needs to be a receiver. Someone must accept the good. The Universe is constantly pouring good into our lives. But we have to take it in. If we aren't experiencing what we desire, we have restricted it in some way. Consider this. How do you receive a compliment or gift? Do you accept it graciously and thankfully, or do you feel embarrassed and try to deny it? This can be an indication of how you receive good. Just remember, if you don't have the life you desire, no one is holding it back from you but you. Get empowered!

Linda-Ann Stewart is a nationally known hypnotherapist, writer, speaker and leads seminars on empowerment and stress reduction. You can visit her web site at www.cedarfire.com.

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