Marie, a True Inspiration of the Power of Love
Excerpt from "Little Lessons on Life and Love."
True courage comes in many forms. It does not always have to be a soldier going into battle or bold daredevils leaping buildings on a motorcycle. Courage can be found in many forms and sometimes found much closer to home and in a less dramatic environment.
I have titled this chapter simply “Marie” for the housewife/mother who displayed courage in everyday life. She never marched in war, helped pass a law or even made a speech to a group of people. Yet Marie showed courage through much of her life. It was in 2002 that I first heard the sweet voice of Marie Granger. She spoke to me in broken English on the telephone many times before I finally met her. She had a way of making me feel so loved and wanted. That was something I really needed to feel at that time in my life. Her son and I had decided to share our lives together and having her acceptance was awesome. What was beyond my wildest expectations was that she loved me and was happy her son and I were together. This bond allowed us to talk and laugh together often.
She asked I call her Mama, or at least Mama Granger, yet for the purpose of this article, I’ll call her Marie. Hearing her speak would bring a smile to my face as she would say, “Reeeahhh , I love you! Tell Stevie I love him toooo!” Her accent is one you just have to hear; I cannot type it. It was just adorable and soul-lifting. I always could feel the love as she said it.
She was born and lived in St. Jules DeBeauce, Quebec, near an asbestos factory until her parents bought a hotel outside of Abercorn. I suppose it’s no surprise that she developed emphysema at a young age. The last 10 years of her life were lived with an oxygen tank by her side and a tube in her nose. Towards the end of her life, her breathing became so shallow that she retained carbon dioxide. This required a special machine to assist her with ridding her body of this toxin while she slept.
Visiting people and driving places were important to her, as she felt this ensured her independence. As her energy faded, she lost the ability to drive a car and visit with whom she wished. Yet in all the time I knew her, she would always say everything would be okay and bring happiness into your life with her voice.
As a young woman, Marie married and moved to Vermont, where she had three children. Their father was gone often, which made it hard to raise three young children alone. She worked hard and loved her children dearly. They were her source of pride throughout her life. They were testimonies to her belief in humanity.
Whenever I start to feel sorry for myself because I have to shop, get out and do things, I think of Marie Granger. She felt like a puppy on a leash as she dragged the oxygen tubing everywhere she went. The tubing made her face chapped and dried her skin. The lack of oxygen would make her tired and her inability to exercise made her muscles grow weak. Yet as I said before, Marie would show astonishing courage, as she would smile say, “Everything will be okay, Rheeea!” What amazing strength she possessed.
Although as a medium, I know Marie is still close and showing her love, and giving me constant encouragement of things to come. Her life serves as a reminder to me, a reminder that even when times are hard, they could be much worse, and I feel blessed to go and come as I please. I take for granted the ability to breathe without assistance and get what I need without depending on others. Marie was an angel on earth who showed what true courage is. Marie was never in battle to show fearless bravery in the face of death but instead was in the midst of life showing fearless bravery in feeling and showing love. In spite of experiencing a mountain of life’s hardships and betrayals and injuries to her heart, Marie was not afraid to feel or show love. She took life in stride with a smile and a laugh, and she enriched everyone’s life she met.
She was never afraid of love even though it had hurt her many times. Her love was shown to many but the closest to her heart were her children. Her voice filled with pride as she spoke of her daughter, Brenda, and her intelligence and talent. She would tell everyone she met about her sons Steve and Brian. Steve had a career in the Navy, and Brian was such a hard worker! Her children were a deep source of pride.
I talked to Marie the day before she crossed. As always, she said she loved me, and that she would be in contact more now, and she was happy I was taking care of Stevie. I felt bad because I had not had time to talk to her as much since I was busy raising my children, going places, speaking and writing my book. Although I knew it would be the last conversation we would have, she made me feel at peace with my lack of attention. The next morning early, she crossed over quietly.
A few weeks after she had crossed, her promise to keep in touch was fulfilled. It was close to my birthday and she had never gone without calling. My sons and I had finally found a battery to a cordless phone that had died on us a year before. We plugged in the battery and the answering machine on the base announced I had one unplayed message. I clicked the play button and was greeted with Marie’s voice!
She told Steve she loved him, and was checking on us. She told him to tell Rheeea the same thing, and that she would try to reach me on my cell phone. I had to smile, because once again, Marie had beaten the odds and those not gifted heard her as well.
If you are looking for a lesson in this chapter, then read it again because it’s right in front of you. Marie raised three successful children on her own. In spite of what life gave her, she never turned bitter or refrained from love. During the last years of her life, she awoke alone with a plastic mask on her face and yet behind that mask was a huge smile and twinkling eyes. Marie knew and was love.
Tomorrow morning when you wake up, start counting your blessings instead of your problems. No matter what love or life has given you in the past, do not fear love but instead show true courage in embracing it. No matter what happens, do not let it alter the way you view life. When you think life has given you more than you can handle, think of Marie. With this wonderful lady, anything was possible, no matter how impossible it seemed.
“To fear love is to fear life, and those who fear life are already three parts dead.”
— Bertrand Russell
“In reality, serendipity accounts for one percent of the blessings we receive in life, work and love. The
other 99 percent is due to our efforts."
— Peter McWilliams
“Every human being on this earth is born with a tragedy, and it isn’t original sin. He’s born
with the tragedy that he has to grow up. That he has to leave the nest, the security, and go out to do battle. He
has to lose everything that is lovely and fight for a new loveliness of his own making, and it’s a tragedy.
A lot of people don’t have the courage to do it.”
— Helen Hayes (1900 - 1993)
Rhiannon Waits is a syndicated columnist with her column published in 14 different countries and translated into 4 different languages. You can purchase "Little Lessons on Love And Life" at Amazon.com, book private sessions, schedule speaking engagements, or attend book signings by calling 850-941-4190. You can also visit her web site at RhiannonWaits.com. Rhia lives in Pensacola Florida with her life partner, Steve, and her children. Rhiannon Waits is a renowned Psychic/Medium.