Face your Fears, Change your Life

What's the one thing most of us fear in this life? Change.

We're afraid if we change something it might be wrong or a mistake.

Haven't we all been embarrassed and ridiculed by someone when THEY think we've made a mistake. Did you notice the way I stated my last comment? The mistake that someone thinks we've made.

I don't make mistakes anymore. I make wise and unwise choices or I've learned a lesson. If you take the words "mistake," "failure," and "but what if" out of your vocabulary, you'd reduce your stress level because you would have just eliminated the fear of being wrong or making a mistake. You have also taken out the fear of the future.

Fear holds us in situations we know, no matter how painful that situation is. No matter how painful our job or our relationships are, we stay in it because it's familiar pain and there's a fear of an unknown pain if we leave.

Pain--no matter if it's physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual--is a signal that something's uncomfortable for us. And what do we do if something is uncomfortable? We start looking for a way to change it, get rid of it, or a way to get out of it. And when we start this process what happens? Well, the fear of change starts coming out, too.

Fear is the emotion that follows pain. Because we are somehow in pain, the fear is that there's something wrong with us. Right?

If you had a pain in your leg and you thought it was broken, what would you do? Wouldn't you go to the doctor to find out if it was broken? And if you hit your head against a wall and it hurt, wouldn't you stop? If it's a physical pain, we usually fix it. Why not spiritual or emotional? Because most of the time we don't recognize spiritual or emotional pain. And when we do, it scares the hell out of us because we are really facing ourselves.

But getting to know that you are your own best friend and your own worst enemy is probably one of the most important things you can do. This is the beginning of facing yourself and taking control of your life and your thoughts.

But aren't we afraid that any change might look like failure? Well, failure isn't in my vocabulary. If I fail at something, then I'm either not suppose to do it, or I've just learned something. So don't let the word failure stand in your way.

But many times don't we let situations eat us instead of feed us? We do this because of the fear of change and thinking we don't know what to do with our life.

Don't ask someone else what you should be doing with your life. Do your passion. It's good to get information and knowledge so you can make wise choices. But when it comes to doing what you want with your life, only you know that. Ask yourself, what would I be doing if money and time were not important? A passion is something that we love to do. It doesn't matter what it is. If it's your passion, why not look into doing it to earn your living or at least some extra money? You hear and see people doing it everyday. It just takes you having enough confidence in you!

After all, you're a powerful Spiritual being and can do anything you want. If you're trying something and getting nowhere, stop it. Take a breath, step back from it, and see if it's really what you're supposed to be doing. There's no fear as big as us setting a goal and then not meeting it. But what if the goal isn't for you? What if you aren't supposed to go down that path? What's wrong with changing the goals or the project? Your parents might have wanted you to be a doctor but you wanted to be a truck driver. It doesn't mean you are wrong or your parents are wrong; it's just the Universe telling you that you aren't supposed to be there or do that. So either stop it or go about it another way. We need to remember that it's not the end result that really counts; it's the process along the way.

You'll always have changes in your life, so listen to your heart (your inner voice) and watch for the small signs from the Universe to help guide you. Because the saying, "Face your Fears and they disappear" is true, the only fear you really need to be afraid of is the fear you create.

I'd like to share with you a dream I had several years ago. It was one of those life changing dreams. I was sitting at picnic table eating when I became aware of someone sitting across from me. I raised my head to see who it was and almost jumped out of my skin. I was looking face to face with death. He had a long black robe with a hood over his head and only darkness where a face should have been. I wanted to run but just as I started to stand, I had this over-whelming sadness fill me. I knew this death energy was sad and unhappy and all I wanted to do was give it a kiss and hug. I stood up and as I reached across the table to cradle his head in my hands I said, "I love you." He disappeared and I woke up. I was left with the message that if you face your fears with love, they will disappear.

So face your fears with knowledge, love, and the fact that you're a powerful spiritual being that can do anything if you really put your mind to it.

Shirley Scott is an internationally known clairvoyant, animal communicator, spiritual teacher, and a minister of the Progressive Universal Life Church. Click here, find out more about her and her new CD, "Face your Fears, Change your Life.